I wasn't sure how to entitle this post, tried my best. A young lady, 20 years old, had a fender bender the other day. I happened to be driving up the exit, saw a car like hers, saw she was out of the car in a gas station parking lot, pulled up on the curb, onto the sidewalk and got out to see if everything was okay.
I would have gotten out to help anyway but there are a slew of guys who stand there loitering around every day looking to be picked up for work. They had all migrated towards where she was standing exchanging information with the other driver. This didn't sit well with me. I have a pretty over protective nature and I wasn't having her stand out there all by herself. Not only that but I think it was her first auto accident too and that's pretty scarey stuff, never mind how the other driver could have been reacting.
As I got out of the car and approached the scene, my adrenaline began pumping, anticipating any nonsense I may have to contend with either from those guys who had migrated down there "to see" and/or any attitude the other driver may be dishing out. You just never know how a person is going to act, so I was prepared for anything. I was calm too, mind you, if that's possible with all that adrenaline going through my system, the intention was to help, not make it worse.
I get down there, I put myself between this young lady and the men standing there, ask her if she's okay... wait until the other driver got in her car and as we were going to move along, this skanky guy comes over with his eye on this young lady. To me, that's like slapping a lion on the nose when he's eating, he's going to bite you if you give him just cause. That's where my mind was at... and the adrenaline started pumping all over again.
Mainly because he was a skanky fella and I saw the way he looked at her. It wasn't an innocent look and I wasn't having that. He offered the suggestion of giving the other driver some money to make her go away (the moron). I advised him we have insurance for that. He said he was a truck driver and he just knows some stuff... and all the while he never took his eyes off my little friend and I never took my eyes off him. I thanked him for his advise, turned to my friend and told her to get in the car. When she was in it, door closed and car in gear, I walked up to where my car was, got in and waited to see her get back into traffic.
She said, when we got to the office, she was happy to see me. :) I told her that no matter what I say to her in the advise arena, whether or not I agree with some of the decisions she makes (she's a baby to me at 20 years old :))... that I would defend her when necessary. I didn't say it "just this way" but this is the general idea. It was just a surface scratch along the paint and that got buffed out brand new, so that was a good thing
My point here folks is that sometimes people in our life will truly let us "have it" when we mess up. This never means that this same person won't go to bat for you when it gets down and dirty. Sometimes the scolding or advise we get from someone may make us think this person's angry with us or won't have our back but that's simply not true.
There's standing up to someone for the right things, there's standing up for someone when they don't realize they need it and there's being there for someone as they learn the ropes in life. Never assume because someone may scold you or give you "what for" on any particular issue that you can't go to them or that they won't be there for you. They're two seperat animals... okay? :)
Just my thoughts this morning...
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