This should be short and sweet. Although I may be lying because I like to be very clear so I'm understood.
People look at one another and make all kinds of assumptions about each other. They make assumptions about who someone is based on the type of music they listen to, on the clothes they wear, the car they drive... etc.
Now, many times, it could be true, all those things adding up to the person we think they are... of course, that's how stereo typing comes into play. Which isn't the worst thing in the world because it can help us to identify who we're dealing with. On the other side of the coin, it's bad because we could meet someone in jeans and a ripped up T-shirt and they could go outside, get into a Ferrari and they own a business that makes them millions.
Course, suddenly, if you're willing to admit it, that person now seems more appealing to you. Because you think they've got more worth. People don't admit this but I know it's true.
People are very enticed by the things they think they see in another person. We're so pre-programed to look at what we assume another person has or doesn't have that we can assume who what type of person they are.
Me? I think we need to pay attention to what we see and then dig a little deeper into who the person is... don't you?
I mean some things are obvious and we don't want to deal with that person either. Their attitude and demeanor shouts out strong warnings about they type of person they are and who would want to deal with that? Not me! I don't care what you're driving or what you're wearing, if you have no integrity or your actions don't compliment your words, I'm not going to want to get to know that person any better than I do already.
I mean, you can have a wo/man driving a georgous vehicle and they're an inconsiderate individual who you wouldn't give the time of day. You could meet a celebrity and think they're the shit! Those are all those rose colored glasses the world seems to place on the material things in life. What we forget about so often is, "who is this person really"... if you were to remove all the shinny things and really see who that person is, would you still be so enticed by them?
Food for thought this morning... just because we see one thing, doesn't mean it equals the other.
1 comments:
I agree with pretty much everything you've said here, but I will defer only on this point.
We don't always have the time to get to know everyone we meet. So, often we do have to make snap judgments. If you have a history of making good snap judgments, you can feel fairly secure in your beliefs and move on. If you have a bad history, well, that could be problematic.
I always go off the premise that everyone has great upsale value until they show me I might be wrong. I will judge someone by how they've dressed in certain situations, and even if they turn out to be rich, my mindset wouldn't change because it would say they don't care about anyone except themselves. That's something else we all have to rely on; our own value system, no matter what a person turns out to be. At the same time, you usually have an inkling who's dressing a certain way because they have to and who's doing it to showoff.
At least I do. :-)
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