Life is like frying up potatoes

I was just slicing up some onion and some boiled potatoes to fry up (yum!). There were a lot of pototatoes and initially I was slicing them nice and thin, so they would get all crispy like I like them.

As I sliced, I started thinking about what I wanted to do today, the slices became larger, and I found myself hurrying to finish faster so I could cook them and get back to my "other stuff" to do today.

What in the h*ll does this have to do with life? Well... I'll tell you my thought process ...

It goes to patience, and taking our time with certain processes. Initially, we are patient and we go slowly into personal growth one step at a time. More things come up that we would like to work on and we start going a little faster assuming that we just need to get it done.

What happens when we do this is we miss out on all the important things that come from taking our time and having patience with the process of getting to know ourselves better.

Of enjoying life because we just hurried through it without taking our time to make things as we want them. We want them too fast, we become impatient, we forget that it's all about what we want and the results thereafter.

Maybe I'm only talking about slicing up potatoes and onions for breakfast, yet if you think about it ... if we don't have patience with ourselves, if we don't recognize that these things can often take some extra TLC and time with ourselves ... then we could end up not having exactly what we really wanted.

Crispy tasty potatoes. :) (Or is it, the life we want to create?)

Thoughts?

Sue T.
Emotional Awareness & Life Coach
Confidence is Silent. It need not defend itself. It Simply Exists Inside You.
http://www.dsisuet.com/


OH OH! OR like Beef stew! You can't rush good beef stew can you? NOPE!

Keep your friends out of a box ...

"If you treat an individual as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be."
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

The first thing that came to me when I read this was a friend of mine who teases me about burning things when I was in my early 20's. Cooking and me ... well, lets just say those glass pots didn't help!

It's been close to ... 20 years and he still laughs and pokes fun at me. Truth is, I still burn stuff now and then and it's really funny! And I don't mind, because you know, I cook good things too. Lets see if I can still say that after Easter this year. I'm helping cook at his house.

BUT ... where I'm going with this is sometimes we keep our friends and family in a "box" by always reminding them of their mistakes, not being as supportive of them as we could be, not acknowledging them for "who they are today" and perhaps "what their goals and aspirations are" TODAY in the here and now ...

I think that's not so good ... I mean imagine going to a friend or family member and having them remind you of how scattered you always were and what makes you think that you can accomplish "plah" today?

That's pretty undermining isn't it? Try to view an old person in a new light. You may be surprised what some support from those closest to you may yeild.

Course, not all friends and family are as supportive as we need. We do need different kinds from time to time. So seek other support systems or groups to help you too.

We all need some support at any given moment. Just because you may not be getting it from family and friends, doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

What do you think? :)

Freedom is not procured by full enjoyment...

"Freedom is not procured by a full enjoyment of what is desired, but by controlling the desire."
— Epictetus


To me, this means to take the time to truly focus on the results we want in our lives.

When we realize we're miserable, because sometimes we assume that we're unable to control our environments or those in it, (And not in the sense of controlling another person but in making wiser choices and not being a victim of "circumstance") we find ourselves at a point where we can actually "see" that we can make a difference.

The thing is, while we've now discovered that we can play a hand in our own lives without being dragged from circumstance to circumstance, we may grow impatient. It may not happen "fast enough" for us.

We assume that because things don't get better "overnight" that things will "never" get better.

And, this is the farthest thing from the truth.

Restructuring our lives, takes effort. It takes personal insights into what is not working in our lives, and then personal decisions and actions towards what we "do" want in our lives.

And all the while we're doing that, there will be some fear, some self doubt, some wondering if this can truly be done.

If a person were to become impatient, when their efforts yield little to no results "initially" and they quit focusing on the things that they want. They're inevitably going to fail.

Because they gave up too soon.

Some change, like ... say finances, that takes planning. Right? Restructuring.

The same holds true for relationships and restructuring and deciding how you'd like your relationships to be, to "Truly" be.

It doesn't mean you're giving up who you are, but truly "deciding" who you are and what you want. And this is "Okay."

The same holds true for your job, your every day life, and the choices you make in it.

Baby steps as a person builds confidence in their ability to truly have what they want in their life, is not a bad thing. It, to me, is a necessary step in achieving what they "thought" they wanted because "now" they're actually "thinking" about it vs. being swept away with circumstance.

As their confidence builds they learn to communicate what they want, what is not acceptable, and in this, they learn how to accept that they're "worth" it.

There is something that people neglect to remember. That is that it's every human beings right to chose to accept or discard certain things in their lives.

There is twist in this... something that is helpful to know is that when we focus on our needs "as well as" what the needs of those around us are, resolution and positive movement forward (except in abusive relationships, always hvae to put this here) WILL happen.

Sometimes we need to learn to "listen first" (this isn't the easiest thing on earth when we "want" something) because it's much more difficult to work with someone who's defensive and may feel put off by "our" changes for the better.

(i.e., being left behind, what will it mean in their life when we make this change? I liked things the way they were, feeling as though they are left to their own devices in some cases because perhaps you've decided to stop "doing" for everyone else, and began doing for yourself ... can you come up with some?)

Realizing that to have patience with this newfound thought process that you don't have to just go situation to situation with no control as to the outcome, is an interesting yet frightening idea. Because you'll have to assert yourself.

Be patient with your process of realizing that you can have what you want, and change your life. You have to "practice" changing how you think, practice remembering that YOU have a say vs. assuming that going along with what everyone else is doing is going to yield you better results.

Take your time, be specific in what you want ... and begin doing it. If your desires out weight your initial ability to "know" what to do, you may give up too soon.

And we don't want you to do that. :)

Keep doing it, keep at it, and remember to have patience with yourself.

Sue T