You Know What You Don't Want

Most people can run a list off with the things that they don't want in about 2.0 seconds.

If you were to ask them what they do want, that seems to yeild massive confusion. At least for some.

They've simply never considered that there was another way of thinking.

A small example is, if you don't like vanilla, you would be better served trying other favors, like chocolate perhaps. See if it's something you enjoy.

If you don't particularly find yourself in love with chocolate, then maybe you're a pistacchio person.

Initially when I first asked myself what I did want in my life, it was a bit confusing. My brain didn't understand the question because while I was busy thinking that things only worked one way, it never occurred to me that I had a choice in the matter.

I mean everyone else seemed to be doing things the very same way, going through life, doing what they felt was the right thing to do.

Something was missing though.

I wasn't getting what I wanted. I wasn't all that happy or motivated in any particular direction.

It wasn't until I began paying attention to certain things, that I realized I could be chosing things instead of fighting about the things I didn't like or want.

One way to recognize what you do want is to write out a list of the things you don't, and then flip it over to the positive.

Say, if you don't like the chocolate, you go for vanilla or a variation of vanilla.

Your wants and needs are not going to be like the person next door either. They're going to be highly individualized, because they are all about you.

There may be some things as you go along that you may not have considered, and you can add those as you get accustomed to thinking differently.

It seems so simple to me now, yet in the beginning, all I was met with was a numb mind that wasn't quite sure what to do with the question or how to think differently then just moving through life doing the same things over and over again and not really being all that happy.

Try it :) For any situation there can be many solutions. Focus on your solutions and what makes you happy as an individual. Not what Auntie so'n'so thinks, or those who may say you are "too picky" ... focus on exactly what you want and refine this as you go along.