Man Bashing ...

I had the pleasure of being involved in a conversation with some people wherein the one young lady, mid 20's said that her mother taught her that no man can be trusted 100%. Maybe 99% but other than that, they were all suspect.

I listened to this drivel for a while, however after about 5 minutes I interupted and I asked her if she was saying that all women are trustworthy? Was she really saying that all men were slime? I personally do not believe that all men are slime.

I think we can find proof with regard to both sides of the coin with men (good/bad), just as we can find proof on both sides of the coin with women (good/bad).

There was also some discussion about bachelor parties and the like and how men are more likely to have sex with a hooker at one vs. just a dancer. I advised her that while that may make her feel better that there are some dancers, who for a small fee will sleep with him too. They held onto the belief that the hooker would be more accessible. I just shook my head. I've know a couple dancers over the years, and I've had male friends who fill me in on the details a person wouldn't normally hear about. Course, some people really don't want to know what goes on. I just happen to know.

So, while they were talking about the bachelor party I asked if women were all well behaved at male reviews? Believe me I've been to male reviews and women are not angels. Matter of fact at some of them there's all kinds of touching and groping going on which I didn't particularly find acceptable. Many years ago I knew a young lady who disappeared for a good 20/30 minutes in the bathroom. When we asked where she went she said she went into the bathroom and the male dancer was in there. So, that's all she'd say really. You do the math folks.

I guess it's what side of the "literal" fence it is. There are plenty of good men out there and plenty of good women out there too.

Maybe the question should be, would a person do something if they knew they'd never be caught? Would a person's fears that their partner is going to cheat or do something bad enhance the chances and push the partner away?

I'm sorry but for myself I wouldn't want to start my life off with someone who I could only say I trusted 99%. Can you imagine living in this world in your head?

I know things go on in life that we've heard or don't want to know about but at the same time this double standard thought process is massively confusing to me.

I'm not sure at what point some women assume that all men are scum. I do believe however that both men and women need to focus on themselves and what they are looking for in life.

This nonsense of putting one another in a box, doesn't help or promote anyone to have a healthy relationship.

Now, I may know some things that others don't about the things men and women can pull on one another. And there are some people out there who know a hellofalot more than I do, but I'll tell you this, I think it's about time that people start being honest with themselves and not buy into the bad stereotypes.

I mean, isn't this a waste of energy?

Moral: Pay attention to what you want. Regardless of external sources, pay attention to what you want, what works for you (male or female) focus on what you want in your life. Chose wisely, don't wear blinders and for goodness sakes, don't be so cynical.

Oh, and attraction is nice but sex doesn't equal love.

Rant over :)