I'm not a physician skilled in diagnosing Adult A.D.D., however there are some similarities that I've noticed with people who have been diagnosed with it.
Lack of structure/organization, taking on too much, not being organized, not knowing when to delegate, having the attitude of I can do it all, not being able to accept help when it's needed, not knowing to ask for help when it's needed. These are but a few of the things that may go on.
Sometimes it's a matter of restructuring things in your life, cutting down on all of the things you think you "should" be doing, to what you realistically CAN do. There are a lot of adults who are coming up being diagnosed as having adult ADD and the thing is, you can do a lot of things that can remedy any and all symptoms of it.
Do you "need" a diagnosis to feel better? Most seem to dismiss the simply fact that they alread know what the problem is, but they haven't focused on any solutions, nor do they have any idea "how" to make any changes.
What kind of structure do you think you need in regard to your entrepreneurial life and/or personal life?
What things do you find over stimulate or distract you the most?
Do you have a problem setting boundaries with others as to your time and things you need to do?
What has changed in the past three months to a year? If anything, that is different in your life which you are not acknowledging or pretending isn't a problem and/or distraction for you?
Do you have a daily planner/appointment book that you reference on a daily basis?
Do you have a list of the things that you need to do? For example, I have four lists that I add to and take away from as things come up, or are accomplished. One is for future purchases for the house, a to do list for my business, shopping lists, and an errand list. You can make whatever kind of list that you would like that suits your purposes for restructuring your day, week or month.
We often have things that come up that are unavoidable and to be reasonable about it, the list can be reprioritized on a daily basis on an "as needed" basis? There are some things that you can simply put off until the following day which aren't going to affect very much, if anything, of what you need to do.
I would suggest that you pay attention to any self sabotaging behaviors during this restructuring. Or other people's intrusion on your time. Boundaries, again, are very important to maintain when you are organizing your life in a way that works for you.
Recognizing distractions in everyday life is important. Once you begin to recognize what is distracting you, whether it's people, overscheduling, lack of organization, you can then retrain yourself to do things differently. More fluidly so you're not as stressed out over everything.
Developing structured habits on a daily basis would be very helpful. It alleviates the feelings of overwhelm and anxiety people can have thinking they're not doing enough. You may want to leave mindspace for deviations from what you need to do. Sometimes things come up that you have no control over. At the same time, it's better to be able to stop and evaluate what you can rearrange rather than get frazzled trying to figure out how to fit it all in.
Most people already know what's going on but they inadvertently become too hard on themselves assuming that they "should" be able to handle all of these things, when the reality is that they need to really focus on what they can do in the amount of time we have in a day.
Food for thought today. :)
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