Focusing on the Solutions

"and that the passing years brings with it experience....which makes a person wiser. However, sometimes, I keep finding myself in a simlar situation because I haven't learnt my lesson correctly the first time. I then keep hitting the same roadblock...because I haven't identified the correct solution or the correct problem."

Honestly when I cut and pasted this portion of a post, I meant to remember "who" said it. I don't! LOL That'll teach me ...

As you can see, it makes perfect sense to those of us looking in at this to think, well if you know you are still finding yourself in a similar situation, why would you repeat that pattern?

Often times, we are focusing too much "ON" the problem as opposed to "ON" the solution. We can get so bogged down on the emotions of a problem that we forget all about choice and being in control of our own lives. After all that is the only person that we have any control over isn't it? Ourselves.

We can't control others responses, actions or lives. But we can control how we react, how we respond, our own actions and our own lives.

So why don't we do just that? Well sometimes it is as simple as not "seeing" the problem or knowing exactly what we should do about it. And that's ok. Eventually something will strike a nerve and we think. OK! That is ENOUGH! I want change ! Change is good!

Change can also be a little scarey because we may not know what to expect and we're not used to doing things differently. And that's ok. It happens. However think about how "scary" it would be to remain the same?

If given the options and the choices wouldn't you chose to do things differently even if it is in small degrees until you are comfortable with it? One would think. I call them baby steps. Take one small step towards what you really want and need in your life every day, or every week or even every month so you absorb the new you and learn to accept new things.

It can bring with it some anxiety, I think we all have some fears of the unknown. However it's better than where we are now. Don't you think? :)